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The best dating apps for lesbians in Johannesburg

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Online dating as a lesbian, for the most part in Johannesburg, still involves having your space invaded by straight people. we have listed according to popularity the best dating apps for lesbians in Johannesburg, in South Africa.

The heteronormative weirdness got so alienating that lesbians began turning to TikTok as a means of meeting other single lesbians — turns out, it’s a damn good matchmaker.

However, expecting a social networking app to function as a dating tool for everyone is unreasonable. (It may be difficult for some of us to fathom, but not everyone uses TikTok to pass the time.) Even if lesbians have exhausted their local romantic alternatives, they will want to see what else is available.

Some people have acted as if lesbians don’t exist outside of porn and Ellen DeGeneres for much of modern history, while jokes abound about how girls only date women after having a negative encounter with a man. (Yikes.)

Even in 2021, these tone-deaf assumptions continue to wreak havoc on lesbian internet dating. It’s not matching with a lady just to be struck with the traditional “My boyfriend and I are looking for a threesome” if it’s not a man appearing in your feed when you clearly stated that you’re looking for ladies.

1.  HER

There’s just one problem: The straight-targeted applications are still where the majority of LGBT people hang out. HER and other women-only free lesbian dating apps for android are gaining popularity quickly, but they can still be a bit of a ghost town… or a scammer’s utopia. You just have to decide whether you’re willing to put up with Tinder’s idiosyncrasies in exchange for more swipe alternatives, or if you’re okay with seeing the same profile three times.

Apps like Tinder and Bumble are technically for all orientations, but they’ll be damned if they don’t sneak some male profiles into your feed even if you’ve specified the opposite. Given the prevalence of Grindr and Scruff, the demand for a queer-specific online dating platform was obvious — hence, HER. The app’s creators are dedicated to creating an environment that is “so ragingly queer” that disgruntled women can delete apps that don’t feel like home.

As the user base of over four million grows, HER could widen your dating pool beyond the queer women you already know.

In 2019, HER updated its profiles to allow users to express themselves more freely in categories such as gender, sexuality, pronouns, diet preferences (such as veganism), and star signs, as well as a “What does this mean?” field in the sex, gender, and pronoun categories to provide a more comprehensive understanding of identity.

In a standard written bio, you can show off your wit or describe the type of relationship you’re looking for. Joining specialist groups such as “newly out” or “travelers” can help you meet people who are using the app for similar reasons.

Aside from finding love, many HER regulars want to meet new people and learn about the gay scene in their new location. Switching to the community feed gives you access to virtual hangouts with self-curated groups for queer women of color or hobbies like new lesbian films, which mainstream Twitter is likely to overlook. You might even get a head’s up about a local LGBTQ+ event, or gauge interest in an event you’re planning yourself. HER and other dating apps for lesbians are slowly becoming popular in Johannesburg.

2. kCupid

kCupid’s slogan is “Dating deserves better,” and they’re damn right — especially for queer and non-binary people. The nearly 20-year-old dating site has shed the heteronormativity skin that still somewhat plagues eharmony and Match. It’s hip and well-informed, while maintaining a more serious atmosphere than Tinder.

OkCupid has consistently led the way in terms of online dating inclusivity. OkCupid began offering 22 gender and 13 orientation options in 2014 (years before any other dating service had ever considered it). In the year 2020, all users will be able to pick their pronouns. With the adoption of Black Lives Matter and voter profile badges, the commitment to inclusion and social justice is obvious.

OkCupid’s 2017 redesign goes past enlisting a clearly-millennial graphic designer. For young, left-leaning singles, personal politics aren’t just a “well if we agree, it’s great” thing when looking for a partner. Users can weed out people they’d hate by answering deal-breakers about things like keeping a gun in the house or requiring children to be vaccinated.

An algorithm that chooses matches based on how similar both parties answered questions during sign-up strengthens OkCupid’s connections (yes, there are questions about communication and sappy relationship things as well as political views.) When it comes to determining which discrepancies are deal-breakers, a compatibility score with data on where you differed can help, for more dating apps for lesbians click here 

and other free lesbian dating apps for android can be downloaded from google play store.

 

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